The Sacred Side of Jealousy | Podcast Recap | Episode 23

Episode 23 — The Sacred Side of Jealousy: A Map to Your Untapped Potential (Blog Edition)

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Settling Into My New Creative Space

Today I’m recording in my brand-new little studio — and yes, it’s kind of echoey. I’ve done some very professional€ soundproofing techniques today, like dragging in rugs and cushions from the front room. If my partner walks upstairs right now he’s going to think we’ve been robbed.

The space is beautiful though. Plants everywhere, fresh paint, pictures up, cosy vibes. It’s been a dream of mine for so long to have a dedicated place to work — somewhere my ADHD brain can breathe, think, and create without constant interruptions from living above a restaurant.

And now that my daughter has moved out (the end of such a big, emotional era), I’ve finally been able to create this environment I’ve been manifesting for years. Country-cottage-chic with a little bougie twist. Very Airbnb, very creative flow.

It’s cute… but echoey. We’ll fix that!

Today’s Topic: The Emotion We Pretend We Don’t Feel

Today I want to talk about an emotion I find wildly fascinating. It’s something most people experience, yet it’s been labelled as negative, ugly, and something you should push down.

Let’s talk about jealousy.

We grow up hearing that jealousy is bad - something to be ashamed of. Shakespeare even called it the “green-eyed monster which doth mock the meat it feeds upon.” Dramatic… but not entirely wrong. Jealousy can feel all-consuming.

But here’s the plot twist:

What if jealousy isn’t ugly at all?

What if jealousy is sacred information?

What if it’s showing you something you deeply desire?

What if it’s a map to your untapped potential?

I believe jealousy is one of the most misunderstood emotions, and one of the most useful if you’re willing to get curious.

Why Jealousy Appears: The Message Inside the Mess

As I always say:

“There is a message in the mess.”

So instead of pushing jealousy down… what if we explored it?

What if instead of judging it, we listened to it?

Ask yourself:

• When was the last time you felt jealous?

• Who triggered it?

• What situation or achievement stirred something in you?

• Did it feel like lack? Not-enoughness? A gap between where you are and where they are?

Jealousy is pointing toward something you want — maybe something you haven’t yet claimed for yourself.

Using My Three Pillars to Decode Jealousy

In my coaching work and online spaces, I always teach my three signature pillars:

1. Self-Compassion

2. Radical Responsibility

3. Aligned Action

These three pillars unlock untapped potential — in business, creativity, relationships, and life. And they can absolutely help you decode jealousy.

Let’s walk through them.

1. Self-Compassion: Start With Kindness Towards Yourself

If you’re feeling jealous, chances are you’re comparing yourself to someone else. You see something they have or something they’ve created, and you feel that pang in your gut.

Self-compassion is essential here.

Without kindness, you cannot move forward sustainably.

You cannot hold onto the thing you want if you berate yourself in the process of getting it.

I speak from experience — I used to be brutal with myself. My inner critic was loud. For years I kept my desires small because somewhere along the way, wanting more was labelled as “bad”.

But through practicing self-compassion, I learned:

• My desires weren’t too much

• My standards weren’t too high

• My dreams weren’t delusional

• Wanting a bigger life is not a flaw

Self-compassion made me more capable. More grounded. More me.

So if jealousy is coming up, meet the version of you who feels that pang with love — not criticism.

2. Radical Responsibility: You Are Responsible for Your Joy

There are HUGE misconceptions about radical responsibility, so let me clear these up:

Radical Responsibility is NOT:

❌ Controlling everything

❌ Taking responsibility for other people

❌ Holding the weight of everyone’s emotions

❌ Absorbing blame

Radical Responsibility

is

:

✔ Knowing who you are

✔ Owning what you want

✔ Taking responsibility for your love, joy, happiness, and success

✔ Not waiting for someone else to hand you your dreams

When jealousy appears, radical responsibility asks:

“Okay… how can I make this happen for myself?”

Not “Why her?”

Not “Who does she think she is?”

Not “Why not me?”

A powerful reframe is:

If she can do it, it’s proof that I can too.

Let’s bring in Susie — our fictional queen who is out there smashing it.

If Susie starts a side hustle you’ve dreamed of doing, instead of thinking “who does she think she is?” ask:

• What steps can I take?

• What habits do I need to change?

• What do I need to let go of?

• What do I need to embrace?

Radical responsibility focuses on what you can create — not what someone else has created.

3. Aligned Action: Where Desire Meets Reality

Aligned action is the juicy bit — the part where you take your dreams out of your head and into the 3D world.

This is where most people get stuck.

It’s easy to:

• Want the thing

• Think about the thing

• Talk about the thing

But aligned action is about actually doing something — even if it’s tiny.

Aligned actions don’t need to be huge. They can be:

• 10 minutes a day

• A single decision

• One piece of content

• One email

• One step

• One notebook page

Tiny aligned actions stack. They build momentum.

They change your life.

People who spend years being resentful or bitter about others’ success are often the ones who didn’t take aligned action themselves.

Don’t let that be future you.

Jealousy Is a Nudge From Your Higher Self

This is the biggest mindset shift:

Jealousy isn’t a flaw — it’s guidance.

It’s a little nudge from the universe saying:

✨ “This is possible for you too.”

✨ “This is something you desire.”

✨ “This is part of your next chapter.”

✨ “Wake up — this matters to you.”

Jealousy is simply a sign that there’s a part of your potential you haven’t stepped into yet.

And that’s beautiful.

So What Do You Do With Jealousy?

You…

Get curious.

Practice self-compassion.

Take radical responsibility.

And make a plan for aligned action.

Apply these three pillars to whatever jealousy brings up for you, and you will create absolute magic. I promise you.

A Final Word + An Invitation

Every week I’m blown away by the messages I receive from people listening from all over the world. It’s wild to think of you tuning in while I’m sat here in my new little studio in a tiny village in England.

If something in this episode resonated, please DM me — I love hearing from you.

And if you know someone who needs this message today, please share it with them. A podcast recommendation from a friend? That’s my love language.

Thank you for being here.

Thank you for growing with me.

And I’ll see you next week

💛✨

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